So, as the title suggests, I'm a male virgin who's interested in entering the BDSM space. The BeeDee dating app is about to go live in my area, and I'm wondering whether it's something I should include in my profile or wait until I've already matched and meet the other person.

I know that the people here place less value in what society thinks sex should look like, and there also seems to be a lot of emphasis on chasing after novel experiences. So, I can understand how having the rare opportunity to share a man's first experience and mold him into her ideal sexual partner could be something exciting to a lot of women. It could also make me appear less threatening or intimidating to a woman trying to get into BDSM for the first time. She knows she won't immediately be pressured into anything extreme or complicated , orconstantly have to feel like she's playing catch-up to someone else. Instead, it can just be two people figuring things out together and exploring at their own pace.

I don't know, though. I'm really of two minds about it. Which perspective is more correct?

On the other hand, I can also see how a male virgin could be seen as less appealing than he would in the general public. In terms of sexual proclivities, I'd say I'm a switch who leans dom (about 80-20). My understanding is that most sexual submissive want to be dominated by a man who knows what he's doing, and won't have the patience for someone whom they need to guide and instruct. It can also be more frightening to submit to someone less experienced. On top of that, although I'm willing and eager to escalate to other things, I do want my first time to be vanilla, and I don't know how into that women in this space will be.