I find it overwhelming to be the center of attention anywhere, but it’s especially worse with a partner because there often are no other distractions, especially if we’re getting intimate. I don’t like it, it makes me uneasy to have all the focus on me, and I get tense and can’t loosen up. I wish I was able to share their attention with something else. Is this a type of kink? Like I would love it if they’re gaming and I crawl on their lap and do things, or if they’re talking on the phone with someone and they start touching me absentmindedly.

One of the most comfortable and turned on I’ve been with someone is when we’re with friends or people we know. I don’t want to be watched by the friends, but I can relax knowing there are a lot of other things going on and I’m just a part of it.

I don’t think it’s the humiliation bit I’m getting off on, because I would want to know I’m their main focus; I just don’t want them verbalizing it or turning all their attention on me.