Not as in "in order to play with me you must ask", but as in "I don't think about BDSM until somebody asks me to play with them".

Like, it's always in the back of my mind, I watch the porn, I enjoy the sensations when I am in a scene with somebody, but I am not interested in it for its own sake as much as I am interested in it for the pleasuring of my submissive, it seems.

I enjoy the power to give them what they desire, especially when what they want is to give me power over them.

My current partner and I are trying to figure out where our kink life went, and I think it's that she wants me to tell her when I want to play and I want her to ask me when she wants to play.

Also, scheduling helps me and scheduling makes her anxious.

That's a sidenote, also heading off those comments.

Mostly I'm here just to see if there are any other dominant types that don't really have it on their radar until they're submissive requests a scene.

Also:

Submissives: do any of you out there enjoy bringing your dominant to your collar or some other way of asking for a scene, rather than having them tell you when it's going to happen?