So I'm fairly certain i know the answer to this already but I'd like to get others opinions and general input to get as full a view as possible before discussing with my partners.

So I am new to poly (but not to kink) and i find myself in the wonderous position of having two amazing subs that I adore!

I clean anything I use from my kit bag (impact toys, rope, restraints, clamps, etc) after each play session, and I've always been aware that anything that goes "inside" for lack of a better term, should be individual to the sub, so any dildos and vibrators etc we use belong to that sub and thats fine.

My question is, how far should this extend? I'd love to buy a hitachi wand for them both for instance as I've heard its very easy to clean and its a clitoral toy only. But then pussy/clit suction toys get very messy but again are easy to clean (at least the ones I've looked at are), then also clit clamps and labia stretchers are they ok to share? What else have I not mentioned can be ok to share? What definitely shouldnt be?

I am going to have a discussion with both of them to see what they are happy sharing or not (they know each other and are friends but arent together) but I want to be as fully informed as possible before talking to them, I've read plenty on google which has been somewhat back and forth! Which brings me to you lovely people! I would like to hear your input and rules you go by in this situation? And if you recommend sharing some of these things do you do anything special to clean them?