So this may sound a bit weird but it's a combination DAE and "what do I do with this."

I (38M) have been in and out of lifestyle spaces for almost my entire adult life. Something I've observed is that when I'm with a partner whose body I *really* like, I can get a sort of intense primal aggression about it. As a sadist, I'm usually encountering or interacting with masochists, so often this is not necessarily a problem for them (depending on their limits and such).

The thing is, it often can't find any real release. Like, whatever interaction I'm having, it'll just build and build, and not even sex can actually vent or relax it. I'll even be done having sex (not just orgasm, like actually satisfied with sex itself) and still have an urge to squeeze, grip, claw, and devour. And since it can't find an adequate outlet, I eventually just have to stop doing anything and go distract myself until it subsides.

It's a weird thing to complain about but it's gotten to the point that I sometimes worry about getting into intimate situations, particularly those where my primal side might get awakened, because I know I'll leave that scene/encounter frustrated.

Not sure what I'm hoping for or looking for on this - particularly since I'm currently lacking a partner to experiment with any suggestions/advice with. But any are welcome, or even just "yep I feel that too" commiseration. Thanks and have a wonderful day.