First of all if this is not the right place to post, then please signpost me in the right direction :)

I will try to be as clear as possible in my post, and add as much context as I can.

For context - I am 26 years old (F) and I have high functioning autism (I am from the UK and have always known it referred to as 'high functioning autism' but I appreciate it could be known as something else depending where you are from). My autism doesn't tend to hold me back in life too much - I live alone, I drive, I work and generally lead a "normal" life. However I do have a lot of anxiety and I really struggle meeting and even speaking to new people, and going to unfamiliar places, I also have some sensory issues when it comes to physical touch.

For as long as I can remember I have been interested in BDSM and kink, I am naturally very submissive and about 4 years ago I was able to have a very small taste of BDSM with an older guy I was seeing and since then it has left me wanting to be able to fully explore my submissive side and be able to fully submit to a Dom. I have done a lot of research into BDSM and read up on all the safety advice. I have realised over the past year or two that purely vanilla relationships do not work for me anymore, and what I really desire is a TPE style D/s dynamic - I am aware that my autism plays a big part in my interest in BDSM with the rules, structure and routine etc.

My issue is... where and how do I go about finding this? I have been on 'Fetlife' for about a year now, but a majority of guys on there tend to be just looking for a quick hook up and have no real interest in kink, are married or are extremely creepy. I have tried writing a few personal ads on Reddit, but have the same issue here. I have heard of munches and know that these tend to be the best places to meet fellow kinksters and potential Dom's, but I do not feel like I'd have the confidence to ever attend a munch.

Are there any other websites/apps that people can recommend? Or any other ideas... I am only looking for real life (online play does not appeal to me in the slightest.)

In all my ads on both fetlife and here I have always been open and upfront about my autism, I think it's important for any Dom to know from the get go. Is there anything I should (or shouldn't) be including in personal ads?

I am open to any advice

Many thanks