So I matched with a guy one night and we both decided to meet up for drinks immediately. I met him the same night, we had drinks and went to his place. It was implied that we’d hookup but didn’t speak of how it’d go down. We started making out and he started choking me which I was ok with and he asked if it was ok. As it escalated into the bedroom, he started being more aggressive with throwing me on the bed, which I found hot. He was doing some light slapping and choking while we were making out. And when it started getting harder, I said hmm maybe we should have a safe word. He then gave a me a word and said to use it if I need to. He asked if I was tested and I said not since I’ve broken up with my ex and haven’t hooked up with anyone since then. Then he said he won’t go down on me or have his duck in me. Then started fingering me and he put on fingercots to do it. He said he was a germaphobe and just wanted to be safe… but why? we were already making out. Then because I’m a squirter, he took me to finger me in the bathtub. At this point, I was just taking direction from him because I’m a people pleaser and didn’t want to kill the mood. I didn’t cum but things were happening so fast. He then was like ok now it’s your turn, he wanted me to blow him with a flavored condom on. While I went down on him, he put me in a headlock with his thighs a few times to the point where I was gagging. Then he said to give him a handjob and he started slapping me and calling me a bitch, whore and slut. He also spat in my mouth to put on his dick and to swallow.. He asked if it was ok and again I didn’t know how to feel, and was feeling confused and pressured to just keep going. And at the same time, since it was new for me, a part of me wasn’t sure if I liked it too. He was basically getting off on slapping me and telling me to say “thank you” every time he slapped me. After he came, he then was saying that I’m a vanilla person.. Maybe I am but idk if I was comfortable doing all of this on our first encounter without talking about it. Part of me is attracted to him but idk if this was ok for him to do without knowing him well enough or even talking about it. It was the fact that he’d ask me here and there if I was ok with what’s happening while it was happening. The excessive slapping, choking, not going down on me, the fingercots, going to the bathtub, then I went down on him with a condom on, Spitting and the headlock. I need advice please