When I discovered the BDSM community and that I’m submissive, my husband learned he’s not dominant (he tried) and he allowed me to have a dom on the side. My master and I see each other about once per week, we speak everyday, and I follow his rules.

My husband has been exploring his submissive side. We’ve dipped our toes in it a little — me being dominant — and now he wants to jump into a more 24/7 dynamic, much like what I have with my master.

I’m excited. I think this will strengthen our already solid bond. I know we need to start slow and not introduce too many new rules at once or we will get busy and give up on the whole thing.

I’m not particularly turned on by dominating him. It’s not in my nature. But I love him and it makes me happy to help him feel fulfilled. I want to help him reach his goals like my master helps me. Can this work? And are there others out there like me who are in two D/s relationships where they are the D and the s?