Hi everyone, my name is Emma and I am a 21 yr old trans woman looking for advice. My bf 20 ftm is absolutely lovely and we have a very healthy relationship over all, but I'm left wanting more at times.

As background we've been dating for about 8-9 months and it's the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. We both have so much in common from our hobbies and goals and even down to the way we like to spend our free time. We have almost identical kinks and those that we don't share are unimportant leaving us plenty of variety in our sex life.

The problem is I always struggle to finish. If I take over I can finish within 30 secs especiallt if weve been playing for a while, but after spending countless hours having him try I just never can seem to finish. Ive always been very insecure and think this may play a part in things, but there's several road blocks that I just don't know how to approach and I was hoping someone here might have some advice or have experienced something similar even outside of the trans community.

1.) Possible porn addiction? I just use Reddit and have cut back majorly since our relationship started but still regularly visit fairly violent porn subreddits at least once a day.

2.) Estrogen makes it harder to finish (still doesn't make sense how I can finish on my own though)

3.) Even though it hurts to say and I would absolutely never make him feel bad about it or even mention it to him, I do miss the fact that he doesn't have male anatomy

4.) We typically never get a chance to try anal bc prepping takes a while and we don't get enough privacy as he lives at his friend's parent's house.

5.) I don't know if I'm a switch. He wants to be a sub and a Dom and while I do have a sadistic streak at times, I don't get anything out of being a Dom to him (besides seeing him happy which I love).

Typically we take turns and have one person Dom the other with the sub always being the one to finish as I believe we are both pillow princesses/princes, but often I just want him to grab me sometimes and use me for his benefit. That's almost more sexually gratifying for me than anything else and I don't know what to do as I believe he is only turned on by being a sub (although I guess I don't really know).

Do you have any advice for me or know how to approach telling my boyfriend how I feel? Thanks everyone! ❤