This topic is for ONLINE BDSM relationships. I have read a lot of posts inside subreddit bdsm personals, specifically the post written by female sub/slaves that are searching for male dom/master, and specifically the post where they want to give full control, they want TPE, “to be shapened into perfect masters doll”, “daily sexual and non-sexual tasks”, “daily routines”, “what they can eat or not”, “when they can eat or drink water”, some of them wants their finances to be controled, other things too, and than they want to be trained, to learn to use ropes, or to get into anal, ridding, gagging, to take more pain, their kinks are cnc, anal, water sports, extreme pain, gags, deepthroat, they are masohists, they look for sadists, they say their dom pleasure and needs is the only thing that is important and they live to serve and the thing that turns them the most is to see how their dom enjoy and get pleased by them being good girls and slaves, and also they are looking for dom who will get pleasure by torture them and get turned on by watching them cry, struggle, being in pain, and asks for very creative ways of torturing them, humiliate them and degrade them. There are more things, but I think you are getting the point and the thing is 80-100% of the things I have mentioned above are inside of a single post. So we can say it in a way, it is a serious thing. Now we come to the reason why I have wrote all that above, and the reason is that on the bottom of the post after all of the things above, is the line NO PICS/VIDEO/VIDEO CALLS (of course this whole discusion does not apply to the post in which person says that this is not the limit after of few days of talk, when we get to know each other).

I really cannot understand how all this above can function if this is the limit? Can someone please explain to me, give their opinion, point of view so that maybe I can look differently on all this? As much as I can try I cannot understand how all this can work on a text base? I have been in 5 serious long term tpe online relationships (there was not the pic/video limit) and every time I have asked the question to the woman what is the point with limit of pic/video/video sessions when all the things above are included into relationship and always I have got back the response “I do not know, I do not get it either”.

We talk here about ONLINE relationships, which both of us are looking for and all the things above we both are looking for. We are not into 2000 where technologies was not as advanced as it is now, only for this to be text based. I get the fear of exposure, but that goes in both ways. I also put myself on the plate of exposure even if I am male, maybe I am a school teacher and I can lose my career. I never ask or force no one to show me there full face, I always tell them to get some mask so that they can cover their face, I never show also my full face for my safety (unless after some months of relationship after we build full trust), I never want to know the city name, full name, last name, personal informations and I do not give mine, all cuz safety on both sides. I get it, the sub is in a more, lets say, work by doing things and following commands and we as doms send instructions, but I mean that is how this kind of sub/dom relationships work. For me text based only is going to the point I put all my effort and time into setting rules, sending tasks, and so on, only to get back from my sub a text, I have did it, where I lot of people are lying and are not actually serious about all this and do nothing I say, or master I have put butt plug in my ass for example and kept it there for 2 hours, but I never get a proof sub actually did it, so how can I know you did it or not, should I punish you or not, or I say you need to eat that and that and I get text I ate what you said master and that is it, but that actually never happen, or if you want pain, or to be trained or to be a toy I will use how ever I want and to you to be turned on by looking me happy and satisfied or if you want me to be a sadist, to be turned on by you struggling and crying and begging me to stop, how will all this work over text. I mean you get pleasure, to say, by following commands and I turned on by seeing you did it how I say.

It is also interesting to me that in those posts also say that if some one wants to contact them, than they need to send a pic of them or they will not consider those response, or they say how physical attraction is important to them, but the pics/videos is a limit, so I do not know are they expecting only the other side to send pics/videos and that is okay, but they do not need to send a thing. I do not see the point of physical attraction if pics/videos are the limit.

Apologize if some part of text is difficult to understand, if there are type mistakes and grammatical ones and if something is written in an offensive way, because it is not, just English is not my first language. Thanks to everyone. I am male, 29 year old male from Europe. This is my new profile so that I can discuss bdsm things.