My gf is a sadomaschos. I enjoy BDSM as a whole but I struggle to be as much as a sadist as she wants/needs. This would be the first true relationship in the lifestyle compared to just hookups or encounters from parties and fet. I do think that's a reason behind me for stopping how much I am inflicting, which I am working on. Its not that i dont enjoy it or am not willing to do it ive done plenty in the realm, it just feels different. We have had the discussion of wanting more pain and inflictions and im trying to come up with things to do or say. I don't know if there's any advice or tips I can get or pick up but any help or advice would be helpful.