A while ago I started looking for someone who I am both romantically and sexually compatible with. The search has been quite the journey, but I digress.

About a week ago I was contacted by R, we seemed to hit it off and had simular preferences so we kept talking. Now, as things are progressing, I am noticing some things that on their own wouldn't be much of a concern but combined are starting to make me second guess our compatibility.

• In my original post I state, clearly, that I am looking for someone who shares my preference for "romantic exclusivity but sexual freedom". When he first contacted me he expressed wanting to focus on the new relationship/dynamic before going out and sleeping with other people. This seems perfectly reasonable to me, but it has since progressed in to "I want you all to myself". Never mind the fact that we're only a week into talking (!), it sort of feels like a very calculated bait and switch.

• He seems to have very little regard for my time/preferences. For example; he decided on a game he likes and that we're playing it. Never mind what I think or when I want to/am available. While this seems minor and like a non-issue, I am worried it is indicative of a controlling personality.

• 2 or 3 days in to talking he stated that he's be more comfortable knowing that I am not actively persueing other men, so asked me to take my posts down and stop other exploratory conversations I was having. This, again, seemed fair enough on a stand alone basis so I agreed, despite thinking it was way too early to make that call. I wanted him to be comfortable and at that point didn't read into it too much.

• He sets boundaries and than crosses them himself stating "he forgot" and "it won't happen again." This is honestly the reason that I started reevaluating the entire communication and started asking questions.

• He has little regard for my work and personal life. Over the last two days I have been busy and have communicated this to him. While he did present himself as patient and understanding, he did attempt to wake me up from whatever little sleep I have because "he wanted to hear my voice". Is this cute or concerning? At this point I no longer know.

My gut is screaming at me to cut ties and continue my search and while I usually go with my gut, there is a part of my wondering if i'm being hypervigilant due to past domestic abuse and being a recovering peoplepleaser.

He has also expressed having little to no experience, so maybe it's all growingpains. I don't know. When attempting conversations he just either fobs me off or spams "sorry", so that's not going anywhere either.

Thoughts?

UPDATE; Thanks all for confirming what I was already thinking, I have ended the conversation.