I’ve been doing an online thing with my dom that we’re supposed to be moving to in person soon. It’s a lighter version of a tpe, it was very strict at first but the rules have loosened as we’ve gotten busy.

At first they were very communicative. Checked in daily, if i wasn’t sensing messages about progress they’d check in, had specific training demands and praised me well. We had similar kinks and interests as well which was a bonus.

There was one night during training where i could tell they weren’t into it. I asked them about it, they said they were stressed and maybe needed a day or two. A day or two later they were ready again, all was fine but they were still less present. Stopped punishing, checking, and updating my chore chart as much.

I try to be as open and communicative on my end as possible, making sure they know i wont be upset if they’re not in the mood and am fine if they tell me but they haven’t said anything. Doing online can be difficult as a sub trying to to get angles and lighting correct and put on a good show. I’ve started to dwindle in the length and frequency of training videos because it’s exhausting setting up and giving videos to get a bland response a few hours later. Hard to stay in the mood and feel like i’m being a good sub.

I’ve tried to initiate conversations about this before, creating a more concise tpe sheet and talking about doing training and control every other day so it isn’t overwhelming but it’s always not much more than a one sentence response of something like “Sounds good to me!”.

I want to bring it up but i also don’t want to come across as “clingy” or anything. I’m not really, i just like being a servant to my doms so it becomes stressful when they start communicating less. I don’t care if they want me just once every month so long as they communicate that need to me.

We meet in a few days for our first session. I still want to do it and they haven’t explicitly said they don’t want to. Told me they got their std panels back a few days ago and set a day snd whatnot but still feel dismissive.

Should I bring it up or just keep giving them space for the time being and see if they back out the day of? (I’m 20 and my Dom is 22 btw)