We have gone on 3 vanilla/slightly kinky dates, got along very well, i was so happy to find someone subby who is into i think same stuff? I genuinely thought we are like meant to be..

throughout the week i got less and and less texts and they seemed overwhelmed with their work. I tried providing support to the best of my ability, but its also hard when we have only met for a week and they aren’t responding to me asking if i can do anything (send them food, offer vent/massages etc) and they would leave that on read

right before they stood me up they told me they cant give emotional energy, cant handle a relationship for the next few weeks, but said they’ve been feeling very kinky and it could help relieve stress, confessed some extreme fetishes: foot related stuff that also involves l*cking public urinals etc. (in their words: they like that it’s disgusting other people) I played along in text, not really thinking of the health risks at the time, i really really liked him, and while scat is off limits for me, I would have been down to shove his head at my bathroom floor and we both were talking about various degradation/humiliation based kink play we could do, that I would be down to do. I pointed out i find it disgusting but also funny and they said it turns them on. (Id say stuff like “nastyyy haha ♥️”, not in a “youre gross” but flirtatiously? he like kept telling me in text its hot). they sent photos of themselves in like a porter potty so Im pretty sure they arent lying.

we were supposed to meet up to just do kink, and thats when I got ghosted, we even had a phone call morning of that day and they told me theyre soo excited to see me, asked me to walk on public bathroom floor in cute socks, which I did as part of the prep. i still havent heard from them, but his socials are online and even showed him socializing on the instagram story. What was going on in their head? did anyone here have a similar experience?

edit: i changed some phrasings, i typed this out in the morning, i think my original description didnt use the nicest words and I might have come off as judgmental toward this guy’s kinks.