I (39F) have been invited to a play party and I’m very excited. But I’ve been invited by trusted friends who unfortunately won’t be able to go with me. And it’s my first time going to a party like this with the intention of actually playing (versus just watching) and I’m nervous.

Apparently within this particular group all kinds of things happen at these parties — sometimes it’s just a lot of sex and sometimes it’s more like impact, orgies, sexy social time, etc — and of course it’s all about mutual consent.

The thing is…..I’m actually fairly vanilla when it comes to people I don’t know. Sure, I can get kind of domme-y with a long-term partner behind closed doors, but that’s not really the kind of energy I bring to a party with strangers.

All I really want to do is meet some people and maybe make out or have vanilla sex with some other women (if anyone is interested). But I don’t know how to….advertise that? There’s going to be a whiteboard for “pick up play” where people can make requests for partners. Do I just write “ladies to make out with” on there? And is there an expectation that everyone’s down for exhibitionism/voyeurism? Or is it okay to ask to go someplace private?

Help!

Edit: For clarity — I have already tried asking my friends these questions. They’ve been to events hosted by this group before, but they only know a couple of the people who will be in attendance at this one and it’s been a few years since the last time they went to one of these parties, so they aren’t great as far as being able to tell me what to expect. I think my odds of getting info from here are about even with getting info from them directly. 😆