I have always been a sub and recently discovered the Domme within me. It comes very naturally and I really enjoy it. I have a sub and he is really sweet and mostly well behaved. A bit of a brat sometimes but so am I.

My problem is that we don't have a sexual relationship at all. I've talked with him about it and if we do go there it will take time. He hasn't had many partners and I have a Dom that satisfies my needs.

It's been fun to explore, giving him daily tasks and punishments but it seems like it stops there.

I'd like to degrade him a little bit but the most degrading things are sexual in nature. I'd like to do some dirty things to him but it's sexual in nature. Then there's the part where I don't think I'd really want to get sexual with him.

What I get out of this is pleasure from knowing I'm making him feel whole. I lived a long ass time with no Dom and I understand how it feels to have that piece missing. People like us need to be fed or we feel a little extra empty, that's my opinion anyway. I'm also gaining experience. This is my first D/s dynamic where I'm the Domme. He knows he's my first and has loved everything I've done so far. We communicate very well and I check in with him often about our relationship.

I guess what I'm getting at is I'm a little bored and not turned on by this. Also outside of the dynamic we don't have a lot in common to keep me interested.

I'd love ideas for spicing up a non sexual D/s relationship and also advice on if I should end it. If I ended it it would be because it's just not fulfilling for me anymore. Maybe there's no advice for that so I'll take spicy ideas if anyone has any.

Thanks for listening. It's been on my mind for a bit.