So Ive been on Fetlife for a couple months/a year by now and I have yet to make any friends. Ive found a couple events I really want to go to now that I have the time and Im staying at my families house thats closer to the city. (Which is important because I dont have a car and this is really where the only genuine classes are in my area. Everything else is just house partys/gangbangs.) Because Id have to take the train/bus to a very busy city Id prefer to go with someone else. Plus itll be dark out and safety first. I just really dont know how to do that? Everyone Id want to be friends with are young women but I dont know how to message them without seeming like a creep. I know its easier to ask friends you already have but I dont have any (that I know of) that are into kink. The person I suspect could be kinky is in a happy relationship and I dont want to invite their partner. (Not because I dont like them just because were more acquaintances) That could lead to jealousy issues and misunderstandings. Any advice?