Looking for some advice for meeting people who want long-term relationships and who are into BDSM. The BDSM personals on here, while nice to meet some new people to talk to, it feels really hook-up or online-only (although not sure if this is the current state of dating in 2023? Apologies if it seems I've been under a rock for ten years (I also wonder if BDSM in general is more popular due to increased porn consumption? I've never watched porn so I don't know)).

I tried Fetlife for a few hours but was really overwhelmed by how graphic it was. I haven't used any dating apps before haha so don't assume I'm familiar with any of them!

Please don't haze me, I already know how insufferable I am. Thanks in advance ~