I (28F) am a switch, but with one of my partners (35M), I almost exclusively assume the role of a sub in the bedroom. We’ve both enthusiastically participated in degradation and humiliation play, but there’s an added element of semi-praise to our play that I enjoy, and I’m wondering if there’s a name for it.

Basically, I’ll be serving him in some way (the first time it happened, I was giving him a blowjob), and he will very tenderly stroke my hair or face and tell me, in a very encouraging, almost condescending tone, “you’re such a good little cocksucker, you were made to be a hole for Daddy”, or something along those lines. It’s kind of like objectification and infantilisation, but that doesn’t feel like the exact right terminology.

Most recently, we were in a scene where I was handcuffed, and I was deep in subspace. I was trying to touch him, but I was having difficulty with the cuffs on, and I got so frustrated that I began to behave like a child throwing a tantrum. Later, when we were having sex, I kept looking up at him with big, wide eyes and apologising for being such a stupid little slut, and his response was to again stroke my hair and verbally praise/degrade me, which was an incredible turn-on for me.

Is this a DD/lg dynamic? An objectification kink? A praise/humiliation kink? It’s not super important for me to put a label on it, but I am curious if this is a common scenario! Your advice and anecdotes are welcome.