30F here. Looking for a relationship with a M Daddy Dom. (This is not me asking for DMs - don’t do it!) Getting back into the dating scene and determined to do better this time. No desire to waste additional effort on a “Dom” impersonator. So, I’m curious…

Subs: What are things you ask/look for to help weed out red flags in vetting a potential Dom? Specifically, prior to an IRL meetup and play date? What do you want to make sure they know about you? What would be a huge green flag that would reassure you?

Doms: What do you look for to know that a new sub is safe for you to play with? How do you reassure a new sub that you’re a safe and competent partner for them to play with?

Do you have a streamlined process that you follow? Resources you use (kink checklist, BDSM test, your own personal checklist of conversation topics, RACK/SSC/PRICK, references, etc)?

I have a pretty good idea of the info I want to make sure a new partner has about me, and what I want to know about them before engaging in play, or agreeing to an IRL meetup. But would love some advice and resources from any of you lovely kinksters!

Thanks, M