Hey guys, Before you guys go crazy - I've taken a lot of time to look through the guides and other posts through this sub extensively to look for advice.

While I've found a good few things that are useful, I haven't found exactly what I'm looking for in terms of advice.

Because I know this sub gets spammed with "I need ideas for x", let me go over some critical information.

I'm not looking for only ideas, but rather a conversation to help getting those creative juices flowing.

I'm currently in an online dynamic as the Domme. Both my partner and I have expressed his need and desire for masochistic, painful funishments. However, most of the online funishments aren't really explicitly scratching that itch for both of us.

So here are some ideas we have collectively thought of and tried in different scenarios:

Stress positions (we have also tried with objects, like the nose-to-coin-to-wall one, as well as introducing gags)

Ice/temperature play

Kneeling on rice

Controlling of Bladder (see: guides for fun online punishments in the guides the mods made was very helpful for this one)

I'm open to self-masochism possibly, but really I'm trying to find better alternatives than just having him hurt himself. I want more creativity, and I want to be involved in it more than just "spank yourself 5 times with this object".

Online can be challenging in many ways and this has become a toughie for me. I also thought it would be a great conversation starter for everyone to get together and start a conversation on different types of masochistic funishments for the pain sluts.

Thank you guys so much! :)