More of a kinkster, I don't have the mental energy to be in the lifestyle 24/7

Bi poly switch.

1).want to try wax play, my Dom's don't have experience in this. what's some common safety around it? Any good articles we could read together? I get professionally waxed, but my wax play kink is not about having my hair torn out, just the warm slightly burning sensation of it on my body.

2) what are contracts and how do they fall into the casual lifestyle? I have never entered into one with my prior Dom's, is that a concern?

3) taking in new subs, and then being ghosted: I have taken in a few new subs recently (not all at the same time, but after being ghosted I start looking again).

The new sub fall in love with my "daddy" looks and package, but after our first light play meetup I get ghosted. I feel like I'm investing in an ONS and not an ongoing relationship. Is this common, or am I fucking something up, any personal tips on how to maintain a dom relationship with your subs after your inital light play? Some of them this is their first venture into BDSM, could I be playing to hard?