Hi everyone, I’m a 20 yr old trans woman about 3-4 years into my transition and am at a crossroads trying to figure out if I should try to push past my insecurities and try finding a dom or wait 6 months or so.

For context about 2 years ago I was prescribed antidepressants that caused major weight gain and I quickly went from 140 to 280lbs. I used to have a debilitating eating disorder in the opposite direction and am just now about halfway back to my prior weight and am happy (no exercise or dieting done, just a change in jobs and medicine). I am terribly insecure both about my appearance (even though I fully pass) but have started to learn to push those feelings aside and just embrace who I am.

For the past year or so I’ve been in an out of depression and have largely lacked any of my prior sexual feelings. Since I’ve finally stabilized my mood and enjoy my day to day life, these feelings have been flooding back and i can hardly explain what I’m feeling. Suddenly when I watch tv and someone’s called a pet name or a certain tone of voice appears I can’t help but squirm as my whole body shudders.

I constantly dream about dating someone to be close with and who can eventually become my dom but Im struggling with where to start. Because of my insecurities and biased view of myself, I am debating whether I should wait 6 months or so, really focus and work out, to hopefully achieve my goal weight or if I should try to find a partner now.

What do you guys think and why? Also, where did you meet your doms/subs? I’ve really only used fetlife before.