Let me start by saying, I’m not new to bdsm. It’s been a part of my life for over a decade.

I know how to spot totally fake Dom’s. And I don’t stay in relationships where I’m being treated badly/unfairly.

But lately, I’ve been thinking back about my past relationships and friend with benefits type scenarios and anything else I’ve experienced since realising I was submissive. And I realised that there’s a common theme going.

Not saying it’s happened with everyone…but the majority it has. I find that men who are Dominant tend to expect more from me as the sub than they are willing to give back. In terms of communication. They mostly all have had issues with me if I take any length of time to respond. Yet they seem to think it’s perfectly acceptable to ignore messages for hours or days and carry on as if nothing has happened.

I’m not a needy person, but this does infuriate me. The times where I’ve brought it up, I’ve been accused of being needy. Or they have out like I don’t seem submissive enough because I’m willing to challenge things that I don’t like.

And the times I’ve chosen not to say anything for the above reasons, I feel more and more shit and they tend to kick off on the rare occasion I leave a message read and don’t respond.

As I said, it’s more of a rant than actually wanting any advice. Just wondering if it’s a common thing other subs have experienced? A) the difference in acceptable communication And B) being told you’re not submissive because you’re not a push over and are willing to say if you’re not happy about something.