We're still negotiating, but we try to talk daily. We were to start a Ds, but she asked for a time and I ofc gave her. She is experienced, I am not.

It seems she is more unstable than previously thought. Some stuff was predictable, I literally said the day before she burned out that if she kept that pace, she would burn out.

Anyway, she seems well behaved relationship-wise, but she struggles with other parts of her life, specifically her family. Now she had some suicidal urges recently.

1- What is the hurdle for sane you guys have? 2- How to play with someone that has these psychological problems?

Some part of me says "red flag, red flag, keep her as a friend, don't be an asshole, but don't ahead with the dynamic" while the other part says "oh, it's a great opportunity to try to have a good relationship and leave her better than I found her"

I am still new to all this and I still struggle with kinky-shaming myself, and I am sorry with about what I am going to say, but I have a bit of prejudice with BDSM that people here overindex to people with psychological problems. (Say a person that isn't self-confident that can find a significant other, then convices himself that the only way is submitting). It feels a bit like the situation here, tbh.