My partner and I are both switches. Yesterday, we were spending time together, being flirtatious and talking. She indicated that she's a "princess" on this day. I started talking about how I want to blindfold her, tie her up, put the ball gag in her mouth and then spank her and deny cum. She was extremely turned on.

The night comes, we are sitting on the couch both feeling tipsy after going out for drinks and food. we were making out, and one thing led to another, and we end up having sex on my couch. Different positions, various styles.

At some point, she said, "Get your ball gag, daddy". I just didn't. I continued that couch scene because I was enjoying it, and then we passed out.

Today, I was mostly reflecting on all the "talk talk, no action". I'm insecure that I'm being a "wanna be kinky presenting vanilla person". I want to be a creative, powerful, good dom. I wanna be really freaky. I have this constant feeling in my mind.

Anyone feeling similar?