How do you move on from a dom whom the entire dynamic didn’t end well? I discovered my dom was married and he had lied to me about it. I don’t know if I grew romantic feelings for him but I always understood what our agreement/relationship was based on…BDSM/sexuality. I was happy I met him because I was able to express myself sexually in so many ways. In both his and my fantasies. I haven’t been able to enjoy vanilla sex or any of the other things we did. I can’t even play with my plugs and feel good about it. I just climax to climax with my vibrator…I can’t find any pleasure in it anymore. Not even watching porn. I feel guilt and shame when I try to enjoy myself…. And of course think of him.

Would just taking a step away from BDSM or sex be helpful for me?