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Feeling inadequate and inexperienced as a switch
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I have this strange fear of being or appearing vanilla with new people or my regular partners. As a switch, I get this constant feeling that I'm not experienced enough. As a dom, I feel inadequate. A partner of mine told me that I'm not good at choking her, and she's constantly looking for more "daddies" on Fetlife, etc, which makes me feel like I'm lacking something as her dominant.

As a sub, I also feel like I'm not experienced at all. All my life, being the dom was the default mode, and now, I'm learning to switch to get into "sub space" and submit to my dom. I just get this constant feeling of being inexperienced in general, which makes me feel a little inadequate.

Anyone experiencing similar feelings? How do you mitigate them?

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