TL;DR - My partner and I are switches but I was usually the dom and lately I’ve been very subby and I don’t know how to get the dom headspace back or if I’m supposed to roll with it or force it out.

Hey, y’all! My partner and I have been together for 2 years on April 8th and we’ve had a healthy bdsm relationship the entire time. We’re both switches but when we met, I was more dom leaning and they were more submissive. It was mostly because they had trauma with Doming and I had trauma with subbing. But obviously as the relationship progressed we worked through that trauma and it flipped. I was really happy that it flipped and that we were more comfortable in this switched position but now I find it extremely difficult to get back into a dominant headspace. 😅 I don’t know if it’s common for switch couples to go through periods of one specific dynamic or not as they’re the first relationship I’ve had with another switch. Or if maybe I was a sub all along?? And was just a dom out of “I need control to feel safe”? Even when I try to dom and they do all of the things that make me want to dom, either I still end up being a little obviously submissive or they’re still more dominant.

Has anyone been through something similar? Should I just continue to do what feels natural? Even if that means I’m subby for longer or do i sorta have to push the dom out to get that headspace back?