I’ve started exploring a DD/lg dynamic with me in the submissive role. Outside of sex, this has involved rules, caregiving, praise, rewards, and punishments. Until recently, “Daddy” and “good girl” language has been the extent of DD/lg stuff during sex.

We recently tried roleplaying with focus on the DD/lg dynamic and I enjoyed myself, but I want to make sure I’m staying emotionally safe with this type of play. The scene involved me being taken advantage of and forced to be sexual. I wasn’t roleplaying a specific age, but I was sexually inexperienced and didn’t understand what was going on.

I enjoyed the scene and so did my partner, but they would like me to resist more next time. I like CNC but it can be emotionally intense for me and I’m worried about how the power dynamic might exacerbate that.

We do negotiate beforehand and we engage in good aftercare. I’m more worried about this type of play accidentally striking the wrong chord in my brain. Should we be talking about sexual trauma and things like that to get more specific about what to avoid? Is there anything else we should discuss or consider? Hearing about the sorts of negotiations others are having around these types of scenes would be helpful.