Been struggling to think of how to word this. I am extremely new to the BDSM scene as a whole, all i've ever really done is some light dom or sub roleplay over discord and from that i'd say i'm a switch who leans more towards being a sub, but the idea of being a more assertive dom is exciting for me but the problem is i'm a very insecure and nervous guy at the best of times. The one time i was in an actual dom scenario, i froze up. She asked me to tell her what to do and my mind went blank, i felt like a complete disappointment to her.

What doesn't help is i'm pretty unimpressive in terms of size and length, so i'm always worrying about not being able to satisfy. Of course what you're packing isn't all the matters, but it does help give me the constant feeling of "Why would anyone want to get into this stuff with me when they could have anyone else do it better?"

So, ramble over, that brings me to my question for the community; How do you build that confidence as a dom, to just dictate and not second guess yourself? How do i not just lock up when put on the spot again?