I am going through my first negotiation (luckly she's experienced), I am going through some questions about kink I didn't know one needed to go.

One of them is that I have an ENM relationship where we used to be nesting partners. The thing is that the girl said to me she already had DS relationships in the past where she was mono (even through she could be lent), but her dom wasn't. She doesn't seem to care.

Tbh, it's a small turn on to me the imbalance in the liberties. It seems what kink is all about. But on the other hand, I feel like an asshole to ask it from her, even through she's ok. I feel I would be preventing her from finding a nesting partner, a great long term relationship and love.

Would I be the asshole for having a poly mono relationship?

(I hope I asked better this time. I know it's our relationship)