For context, he and I met months ago and I was explicitly clear that I was plus-sized. I think what he said made me feel hurt mostly because just yesterday I felt comfortable being naked for the first time with him. And because of past times where previous partners made me insecure about my looks, I feel hurt when things like this happen.

We were about to do it and started talking about trying out bondage and I was telling him I’d want to try out leather straps instead of rope. I said that I think they’d look cute on me and he said “probably”. I asked him what he meant by probably and he said idk. I didn’t think much of it but a minute later, he said he might wanna “see the bottom part on my “chunky thighs”. At that point, I told him his words relating to my body were starting to be a little hurtful.

I don’t want to make a deal out of what might be nothing but I really don’t appreciate subtle jabs like that, and he said he was sorry and that it was a misunderstanding. I just don’t know what to do.

UPDATE: Hey, so we made up and are okay now. I appreciate all of your input and I do agree with some people who said that I should’ve clarified what he meant before drawing my conclusions.

And to respond to some comments, I’m sure some of y’all who are also big can relate to people in your life telling you to lose weight more often than you can handle sometimes. Yes, most words are neutral, but depending on the person, some can be kinda hurtful. And in this case, I felt hurt by the words and I want time with my partner to be safe from that kind of commentary, so hopefully you better understand where I was coming from.