I struggle with taking care of myself, I dont really care about my own well being very much and I struggle with low self esteem and confidence.

Ive always taken care of someone else in my life and I find it easier to take care of myself when I have someone else to care for, for example they need to eat rugular, balanced meals, so I cook and I might as well cook for both of us it would be silly to just cook for one.

I also struggle with asking my for things I could do myself, or even asking for help with things I can't do thay would "inconvenience" the other person.

This has led to an unbalance in my current dynamic, where my pet feels like they aren't doing enough for me, but I dont know what to ask them to do. I love taking care of them and pampering them, and I dont know how to turn it around and allow them to serve me the way they would like to.

So, for other doms, especially Mommies and Daddies and other Caretakers, how do you use your relationship and submissive to take care of yourself?