Hello all hopefully this is the right place to ask this. sorry if it’s a bit rambling in parts but kink is still a tab bit hard to actually articulate for me but ill try to be clear. I’ve lurked in the kink space since I’ve become aware of it years ago and throughout the last bit of my 20s I’ve been trying to open up and to get more activity into bdsm/kink at least online. Looking to find good people to talk to and see what happens, hopefully find a good dynamic someday who knows. where at least currently my ideal would be me as a submissive. now this is not a personal ad i’ve made those before in the proper channels lol. But more a question of where to fit in/what terminology channels i should be looking to find people interested in people like me? I guess? let me explain. I’m genderqueer afab and i’m very open and comfortable in who i am and happy in many ways with how i looks. While my fitness goals are not all met the fact i grow well trimmed facial hair is not a problem for me. but sadly even though i try and be clear in my post i still feel like once i show myself to people i’m always too much gender strange for them. “too. masc” just cause of some cute stubble and black lace bra-let i guess… or they want it to be a i’m their dom/domme and they’re a “naughty little boy” for me 🙄 even when I’m up front with what i know/am comfortable with. My question is hard for me to articulate and this is partially a rant I confess. but, Is it me? i know for the right/best kind of freaks I’m quite attractive and charming (i try anyway 😅) but i don’t feel i have the vocabulary to find people who would find me appealing in a genuine way? any advice, tips, resources? again sorry if this is the wrong page to ask this and thanks for reading my rambling.