Hi, I need some advice because I don't know what to do anymore. I've been with my sub a little under 3 months. She is my second official sub I've been with since getting into bdsm. I'm not very experienced yet and I'm still learning but I'm trying my best. I'm 28 years old and my sub is 21. She's a little and a kitty.

Everything went great in the beginning. She messaged me frequently and said hi everyday. She isn't the greatest when it comes to messaging back like me which I understand.  I'm on my phone all the time because of work and she doesn't seem to care about being on her phone a lot. She would rather color, watch TV or be on her switch. It is just frustrating sometimes when I I respond back immediately to her message and she won't reply back for hours on end sometimes.  A few months ago we'd have good conversations over text and now she doesn't message me back for days on end sometimes.  When I saw her on Thursday she didn't message me back for days until I finally messaged her back 3 days later. She keeps telling me nothing is wrong and to stop asking when I know something is. She told me something is going to be wrong if I won't stop asking her. Here's what I've been noticing different about her lately 

Like I mentioned she isn't messaging me back as much. Which is making me sad since she lives so far away a little under 2 hours from me. Texting is important since we don't see each other a lot. When I first starting coming over she would always be very excited to see me. She would great me by the door and be very affectionate. I have a key for her place so I just let myself in. The last 3 or more times I've come over she is just in her room watching TV or playing games. She won't say hi to me when I come in unless I say hi first. Even than she just still just watches TV and doesn't really want to talk to me. She will cuddle if I get in bed with her. She will answer my questions if I ask but they're pretty short and she won't ask me any questions really anymore. I want to get to know her more and build a connection with her but it's hard when she won't message back much anymore or talk to me when I'm with her really. Last time I was over I got really upset and left without saying goodbye or hugging or kissing her. We played around a bit and had sex. We usually do that twice when I'm over. But after relaxing for a bit all she wanted to do was play on her switch. I gave her some time to play before i said anything. Assuming she using it as aftercare. I asked her is she just wanted to play on her switch all night. She said yes. I than asked if she wanted to talk to me and she said no. I was really hurt at that point and said since you just want to play your game and not talk im going to go. It sounds like you don't want me to be here. She said that wasn't true but she still was playing her game while talking to me. I just wnat us to talk and build connections when we're together. Not just her watch TV and play games which she can do when I leave. I don't mind us watching TV together or her playing for a but but when she's doing that for a majority of the time I'm there I don't like it.

 I decided to give her a few days to think about what i said but she never messaged me back so I messaged her. She said the way I left her was fine and there was nothing wrong. She won't even address the issues I brought up that were hurting me. She just keeps saying nothing is wrong. Even if she thinks nothing is wrong with her I'm hurt and there's something wrong on my end. I need my kitty to talk to me and she won't even comfort me about what's bothering me. I just want her to communicate with me like before and I want to share our feelings together.  She has depression and she takes medication for it but she doesn't really tell me much about that side of her. She did have a depressive episode when i was there once and we had to cut things short. I don't blame that on her at all and told her that. I feel like I'm losing her even though she is saying everything is perfectly fine and she's happy with me. I don't know what I can do to have her open up more. I forgot another thing. I did collar her last month. I gave her a day collar that's just a necklace. Nobdwill know its a collar. I told her she can take it off in the shower but i want her to wear it the rest of the time. The last few times I've been over she hasn't worn it. I asked her why. One reason she said was she didn't want her mom to see it. But it's just a necklace with a bell on it. Another is she didn't want it to get ruined. I told her i got a sterling silver one with rhodium plating. It's very durable. She is just keeping it in her drawer even though she told me how much it meant to her collaring her. I'm thinking about taking it back but don't know if that would be a good idea. Maybe there's something I'm missing so I'd live a perspective from a little or pet and see if there's something I'm missing or did wrong. Sorry for the long story. I just wanted to share as much useful info as I can. Any advice would be very helpful.  Thank you