I really haven't posted here more than a few times, but I really need some validation right now. Dday was last November when I found out my husband had a 2 to 3 year EA. He went no contact and it has mainly been about growing. We found a marriage counselor we both liked, but now the MC is becoming a real problem. First of all, they are not Gottman trained, but they do have experience in infidelity. Well, they are saying that it's time to move on and not bring up the affair all the time. First of all, it's been less than two years and it's a little hard to move on when this all occurred while my dad was actively dying and then passed away (the affair was). The counselor is invalidating my feelings about the pain the affair has caused me. They question why I keep bringing it up if I want to move on and have a happy marriage. Just writing this I see all the red flags 🚩 and know we need to find a new MC. Does anyone have any advice for this situation and what to specifically look for when talking to new potential MCs?