I am 4 months after DDay. I'm in a LGBTQ marriage. We had an intense first 2 weeks, followed by beginning out MC. She kicked us out to do IC since it would speed up the issues in our marriage. My WS is having a hard time finding someone because of COVID. I wouldn't necessarily post unless IC is not an option.

He had a relapse in using an app that he would cruise on during the time of betrayal and find ONS and guys to talk/sext with when He worked nights He logged on to see if someone was online that he would talk to because he had a crap day, I was asleep and didn't feel well, so he didn't want to wake me up.

Here's the problem: he is only supposed to use it if I am there, which he didn't. He also debated about whether or not to tell me since he didn't do anything wrong on there. After talking, he gets it. But we still have the problem of him using it to find some comfort, which it didn't. Those of you that have dealt with this, what new ways did you all discovery for the WS to cope or connect that wasn't an app? We've discussed me changing his password to download tge app, but that doesn't sit well with me.

TIA!