I'm sure like many others, my post history is well known here at this point. My ONS was with a person in a very specific field. Any time WH and I comes across a random person in said field, he goes out of his way to flip them off, or make some overt, disparaging remark. He even disclosed he threw something out his window at a person in this profession and supposedly hit them - then sped off laughing. He goes so far as to tell our daughter "we hate this profession, they're nothing but bad people".

In talking to my psychiatrist (we see the same one) she said "you have some hard decisions to make regarding WH. Because of the amount of trauma he's has in his life, his brains wiring is completely different. He would benefit from intensive inpatient, but of course he has to want to go". I've tried grey rocking against him when he acts like that, but honestly at this point it's embarrassing and doesn't feel like R. It feels like him just being spiteful and vindictive. I don't remind him of the 20 plus women he "revenge" cheated with, or the cowork he had a 6 month relationship with; nor the women he brought home to our marital bed. Is it something I just let go and accept. That it's a part of R since I wounded him so deeply?