My spouse has decided he is going through some feelings he doesn't quite know how to process. He decided he was going to drown those feelings in adult beverages. Which, that's fine he's an adult. Tonight,it came to a head. Needless to say it's my fault he's upset. I inquired what I could do to assist or did I need to give him space.

That was not the correct thing to ask. He started going off that he was going to leave, he has someone on a town 4.5 hours away who really wants to see him. That his APs are hitting him asking them why he doesn't talk to them anymore, they miss him etc. Granted I understand he had been drinking. But I don't think he was that drunk. Now I just feel stupid for trying to pursue reconciliation.

He already got his revenge for my ONS, with 20 additional, 4 on our own marital bed. Was the relationship with a coworker also not enough? I feel so heartbroken right now. Or do I just let it go because he had been drinking?