Writing this after a very repetitive argument. My WH had an EA due to a PA, long story short. We’re about 5 weeks from dday. He began IC and SAA and we’re in MC. I’ve told him before I want to be won over again, and I do not feel that is happening. There have been no grand romantic gestures, he asked me to dinner one time, no reassuring text messages, no random flowers, etc. During today’s argument, he told me to “be more consistent” with my emotions. I feel as if that’s the final nail in the coffin of our marriage and he just put an expiration date on us. If I’m not getting any more effort besides counseling and he wants me to control my emotions after betrayal trauma, I don’t think we can ever reconcile. I’m the only one on this thread, I’ve been the one finding books and podcasts for us and a CSAT for him (who he hasn’t reached out to), after seeing some stories from those of you recovered and the effort put in by your spouse I don’t think I’m getting even half of that. Of course he’s remorseful and apologetic, but I think that’s just a bandaid for the lack of further effort. I don’t know why I’m posting this. I’m not sure if I needed insight or just to rant, but I’m open to any and all responses.