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So l've been here a few times and some of y'all may know my story. I had a EA for basically 2 months (on and off) and my husband ended up finding a sex message and everything came out except.....the fact that he asked if we ever talked on the phone and I lied and said once but it was a handful of times. We have been somewhat working on things since then and I had no intentions on bringing up the calls figuring the worst was already out. I know that wasn't my decision to make and I deeply regret not telling him from the get go. Now he doesn't know if he wants to be with me or not. What do I do?
EDIT: For those who keep telling me to full disclose, everything is out!! I am hiding nothing else. I genuinely appreciate the feedback but please read the post in its entirety and some comments Iāve responded with.
I agree with the user who stated above that your Dday resets every time more of the truth comes out. It truly does breed resentment and even more mistrust than what youāve already created. Every single time you omit something youāre just digging a deeper hole.
I canāt count the times my WP had told me that everything was āout in the openā and there were no more things to uncover only to find something else out later. It was a huge punch to the gut and setback any form of healing I had started every time I found out about something else.
Thereās really nothing you can do but be absolutely honest and let him make the decision as to what he wants to do moving forward. You continually omitting things because the worst is already out will not help in the long run and it will definitely disintegrate any semblance of trust he was starting to rebuild with you.
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