We go into a stage of numbness and it's a coping mechanism and way to protect ourselves. We get to the point that the pain becomes to much and we shut it all off. It's better than feeling and it's freeing to not care. At that point we just tell you stay or go. If we give you the option to stay, then there is hope but it's going to take alot of work (more so on your end) by both parties. You need to prove trust can be rebuilt. Simple reassurance is not enough, prove yourself with actions. We also need to get to a point that we don't question your every move, but that is hard to do. We worry about being hurt again. Ultimately she needs to figure out if she can move passed it and then decide to choose to make it work and refind that love. But I will tell you the love we rebuild is never that same as it was before. We are gaurded after this stuff happens. So you'll have to be ok with that and what she chooses to give back if you want it to work.