As the title suggests, its about 1 month shy of DDay.

I just wanted to remind all of you BS's who are trying to reconcile with your WP, and to you WP's trying to reconcile with your BS, that it can get better. You can reconsile. It IS work. A lot of work.

There will come times for hard talks again. There will come times when WP feels like complete piles of shit when the topic gets brought up. That is okay. It is okay to validate BOTH of your feelings.

There will likely be trials and errors while you two travel along the healing process. You'll never forget. Never. But you can choose to learn and grow from it. You can learn to forgive.

I have forgiven my WP. If your WP truly puts in the effort, I believe it's worth forgiveness and understanding. My WP is such a good man who has a lot of self doubt and insecurities. He's super sweet, caring and kind. And if I hadn't of seen his absolute genuine regret over his actions....the guilt and sorrow for the pain he caused and total fear of loosing me and something good because of his selfish moments, I don't think I would have come back.

Looking back though, I still cannot imagine life without him. He's become such a big part of my life, my support system. He's my best friend, my love, my lover, my life. And I love his daughter as well. They're my family in my small world of family. And I don't regret giving my WP a second chance. I hope that I never do.

So reminder BS's...be kind to yourself. Take your time. Think things through. Have those hard discussions. Understand there will be rough patches if you're going for reconciliation. And more over....help teach yourselves to validate each other's feelings. For when if you don't agree with what the other is thinking or feeling, it is OKAY for them to feel how they feel as well. That doesn't mean you have to agree with each other all the time. It just means you both understand where the other is coming from. 💜

Good luck to all of you BS and WP who are working together and trying to find your way. I'm always an open door to ask questions from as well.