First and foremost, I don't want to rush into anything, and I'm looking for someone who's willing to actually talk to me like a person and not just a sex toy - at least not until later on ;) I mostly just want to find someone I’m compatible with where the friendship is effortless and the kink is plentiful.

Im currently trying to find a Dom leaning switch, as I'm a sub leaning switch. I want someone who actually has the desire to switch and doesn't expect one or the other 24/7, which is a problem I've ran into a lot lately. Being into hypnosis is a must - or to be someone who is at least willing to learn about it and give it a go. I'm a sub when it comes to hypnosis, but I intend on trying my hand as a tist once I find the right sub.

While I am looking for someone older, my absolute upper limit is 43.

I want someone I can have fun with outside of kink/sex. I guess I want a friend first and anything else second. I'd really rather not jump head first into anything sexual, but I don't mind talking about kinks on general to start off with. It takes me a minute to get comfortable with people, and I have the tendency of coming off a bit aloof at first - but it typically doesn't take long for me to open up

Please do not message me if you plan on calling me or yourself any honorific. That takes trust; I'm not your baby girl or your Mommy or your Mistress, and you are not my Daddy or baby boy. Honorifics are earned and require a large amount of trust. I am not comfortable jumping into these roles without prior conversation, especially in regards to consent. I do not feel comfortable jumping headfirst into anything sexual either; I do like to have at least some conversation beforehand.

I will block you if your first message to me has any honorific in it. I will block you if your first message is nothing but kink/sexting. I will block you if you send a dick pic. I’m done beating around the bush, and I’m aware I come off as abrasive. I’m really not. I’m just trying to weed out the ones that I know won’t have a chance.

I live in Kentucky, but I’m mostly interested in just something online for now. Maybe if things progress, we can take it real life. But I have a lot of shit going on in my life that I’m focusing on at the moment and I want to get myself in a more comfortable situation money wise before taking things real life.

I’ve got the whole witchy/alt vibe going on. Plus sized. I have several piercings and tattoos and desire more. I don’t drink or smoke or do hard drugs, but I’m a 420 participant and I’m willing to try psychedelics at some point if that’s something you’re interested. Being a smoker, or being okay with your partner smoking, is a must.

I promise I’m not as mean as I come across in this post. I’ve just been through this several times before and I now have some sort of idea as to what I’m looking for, so it goes without saying but please send more than just ‘hey :)’ if you decide to message me. At least give me a little bit of substance and something to go off of. If it’s obvious you didn’t take the time to read my post, your message will get ignored.

If you actually read through all of this, hi. :) I promise I’m only mean in l my post just to weed out the ones I have no interest in. I look forward to getting to know each other.

I have discord and am willing to give it out because I hate mobile reddit.

I’m not interested if you’re married or in a relationship, even if it’s an open one. Also not interested in being with anyone who has kids.