I'll be at DragonCon this weekend! If you are going and would like to meet (or even play a bit) shoot me a message!

BDSM has been a foundational element of my life for over 20 years and you will find it mixed through everything I do. I'm a member of the local dungeons and community. I volunteer by teaching classes and help with technique/play demo events. I picked up leatherworking to make my own toys have sold dozens of commissions. I've taken classes on everything from rope to impact to the mental aspects of BDSM. I've been active here on Reddit for years answering questions. I have references throughout the community who are happy to vouch for my skills, safety and character.

But there is more to me than kink. I read extensively and enjoy staying in shape. I love to cook and grill. I play video games and can often be found working on a home improvement project. I have a successful career and work from home, but also carefully maintain a healthy work/life balance. I simply find life much more entertaining with that kinky element mixed through - like starting my morning meetings while you cook and serve my breakfast, then eat your meal out of a bowl on the ground at my feet. Or taking an afternoon break to tie you up, fuck you brutally and leave you in the corner of my office dripping cum as a decoration until the workday is done.

Over the years I have found that a single label doesn't really convey who I am. I'm a Daddy who enjoys having a playful partner that needs cuddles and aftercare. I'm a Master who enjoys strict rules, high protocol, punishments and a well-run house. I'm a Sadist who enjoys exploring the limits of my partner's submission through impact play, predicaments, overstimulation and more. I'm a rigger who enjoys exploring groundwork and suspensions for beauty and/or sadistic enjoyment. And I have vanilla needs as well to connect on similar interests and just explore things like new restaurants or try a new hiking trail.

I measure a potential partner by the energy, maturity and empathy she shows and how serious she is about living the lifestyle - not by the year she was born or her experience in BDSM. I am open to age gaps as the older partner and I am open to subs without experience. But I consider knowledge to be an important part of consent. If there are gaps in your BDSM knowledge or healthy relationship skills, expect some research assignments and discussions. There is more than "my way" to kink and relationships and I'll want you educated so you can give informed consent and build a healthy relationship.

I am non-monogamous and keep a body positive, sex positive and kink positive home. I have established play partners who visit regularly for scenes. I normally have one or two sex partners and keep to extremely strict sexual safety protocols (note that I do not swing or hook up and play partner does not mean sexual partner). Friends from out of town will stay regularly for mini play parties or to attend the local dungeon. If you are looking for your monogamous one and only, I am not a good fit. But the person I hope to find for will see it as an opportunity to live in fully open BDSM lifestyle with a kinky family of friends, partners and metas surrounding them with love and support.

Vaccinated, boosted and recovered. STD/STI free and recent tests available. Body picture on my profile.

Good luck in your search and I hope you find the person you are looking for!