hi! im seeking to date intentionally for a monogamous long term relationship with the goal of getting married 4-5 years down the line. im also childfree and dont want kids - just not for me. id also happily relocate if something really lands!

also important to note that submission is earned and i want a normal long term relationship where we build trust and unleash our bdsm freak in the next step of our journey as husband and wife. i wish to be collared on my wedding night as your official property.

about me:

-im based in northern california

-im 5'5, slimthicc/curvy/busty with thick thighs and a booty. im a size 8/10, not overweight, long wavy/curly dark brown hair, hazel eyes, pale skin, HWP. ive been told im a babe and i think im a solid 5.5.

-i like to exchange pics right away to confirm physical compatibility

-DDF besides 420, i dont drink but idc if you do

-big on hygiene. i own a bidet, shower daily, and stay hydrated

-i eat clean and care about nutrition and living a healthy lifestyle and want a partner that seeks the same. im gluten free but enjoy dairy and meat still, who can give up cheese and steak?!

-i stretch daily, go on long walks, jog, love to cycle, and rock climbed pre-covid and before my wrist got messed up. id love a partner to do fun outside activities with. im 60% homebody 40% outdoorsy.

-i work in public policy. im college educated with a dual degree in polisci and literature.

-im bilingual

-im progressive politically and care deeply about human rights

-i love deeply and care very deeply in general. im a very nurturing soul and i like to be a caregiver.

-i have kitties! im an animal lover in general

-i love stand up comedy, carnivals, farmers markets, traveling, trying new foods, and simple things like just sitting at a cafe with friends and enjoying each others company

-i struggle with mental health and seek a person who can hug me and reassure me when im struggling that i am not my demons. i have a therapist and have been on my healing journey for 6 years now so i have professional support. but i seek a man who can show me affection and care towards my emotions as best as he can

-im kinky. im a submissive, a brat and a rope bunny. ive also learned that im a nympho. i dont have experience in bdsm but i want to have a partner i can unleash my freak with. i want to be totally in love and obsessed with my man and submit to him inside and outside of the bedroom.

what im looking for - preface:

so as a quick summary, ive had a difficult life and have fought tooth and nail to survive and heal so i can have a chance to experience a chapter of joy. i share this to preface why im seeking what im seeking bc i know theres going to be presumptions:

im an only child from a dysfunctional home, no contact with my now divorced parents. remainder of my family are now refugees outside the US. im the only person in my family that was born in the US and ive been on my own since 15, been working since 15, put myself through college, secured scholarships, fellowships and friends in efforts to survive and figure out how to create a life for myself without support. after college i started working full time and also began my healing journey. 6 years later and its 2025, im single, lonely, almost 30, and extremely burnt out from life. i dont wish to keep living like this. i have been alone with no support for 3 decades. i am ready for a life with someone.

what im looking for - details:

i want to be a childfree, free use, stay at home wife. yes, i work now. yes, ive worked my whole life. and yes, if i dont find my person then ofc ill continue to work. but my health has suffered from how hard ive had to hustle and it hasnt paid off. it has only deteriorated me. i know what i want and its to be able to spend my days caring for my husband, our home, our pets, continue to recover from my trauma, and enjoy my hobbies and fitness. i want a man who will provide, take the lead, and guide me in our relationship. i want him to be the decision maker, while still valuing and respecting me and seeking my input. and of course i want to travel and make memories and have fun with my love.

what i seek in a partner - character wise:

-kind to himself and others

-emotionally available

-likes animals and cats specifically

-is not emotionally avoidant

-goofy and genuine, down to earth

-ideally left politically as well

-values quality time with his partner and wants to be snug as a bug together everyday after work together

-dominant in the bedroom and also playful and fun generally speaking

-hard working

-generous

-loyal as hell

-not big on social media

-no kids and doesnt want kids

-ideally open to having a vasectomy down the line so i can go off BC without fear of pregnancy

-wants a wife who is a fiercely devoted partner thats introverted around others but bubbly as fuck around him

-values solo time and time with friends but misses me when away, hehe

-likes to travel and wants to spend his life exploring with his wifey when possible

what i seek in a partner -physically:

-athletic/fit/slim

-conventionally attractive

-hung (not a dealbreaker but at least 6” preferred)

-5’8 and up

-smells good

-i prefer peach fuzz over beards

-not into men with long hair but will date a bald king anytime!

-dresses well

KINKS:

-praise and degradation

-submission

-breeding (only as a kink, not real life)

-soft exhibitionism (being recorded/displayed)

-body writing

-age play (can i call you dad/father and can you call me kiddo while inside me? 🥺)

-spit play

-free use

-anal

-size queen - not a dealbreaker tho

-pet play, ie being collared and leashed

-cock warming

-TPE

-Ddlg

-getting groped/fondled

-face fucking

-shibari

-packofilia

-squirting

-choking (not intensely tho just normally. im not trying to pass out)

-being my partners daily stress relief

LIMITS:

-The only type of “punishment” im okay with open hand spanking on my booty. besides that i dont want to be flogged or hit or caned or any of that. and in general i dont really want to be punished tbh. what gets me off in bdsm is the mental turn on of submitting to my man. its the power dynamic. and within that submission i wanna experience pleasure, not pain.

-no slapping

-no scat, blood, toilet stuff or golden showers

-no race/incest/animal play

-no weight commentary or fat shaming

-im unsure about cnc but open to trying it if its what my man wants to explore

-no fisting

-no outside objects besides a dildo penetrating me. like im not about to fuck a beer bottle

-no public obscenity

-no edging, i wanna be made to cum not prevented from it. i dont need to edge to yearn for your cock.. im mentally ill, its a packaged deal, lol.

any reachouts that are crass and crude won’t be responded to. just because im sharing my kinks doesnt mean i want to be approached in a sexual manner. lets just start off by having a regular conversation and getting to know each other as people.