42 | 5'11" | 200lbs | white | divorced | kinky | funny

I believe that strength is shown in how you lift others up and shelter them, not in how you grind them into the ground.

I'm 42 years old and I'm really just a big kid at heart. I am not an old man who takes himself deadly seriously. Life has tried to wring the fun out of things, but it has failed - miserably. Video games are my main vice, though I do write smut for my own enjoyment quite a bit. I have a calm, intense resting state, but I can get really worked up.

I'm a programmer for a state college and my career is pretty well set up - it's not a main focus anymore. I am more interested in finding a partner to enjoy life with me. In my own nerdy ways. I work remotely. So, between work and my gaming hobby, I spend a lot of time online and at home. I would like someone to be there with me. Major plus if you're playing alongside me, but nobody's perfect!

I believe strongly in communication, so come ready to text or call. With the ability to hold a conversation. I will NOT drive conversation and discussion completely on my own.

I'm divorced and I have two children - boys I spend the entire weekend with every other weekend. They live with their mother in a town an hour away from me.

I was a goth kid growing up and that's never left me. My favorite color is black and you'll find more skulls as decorations in my house than anything else. I have a dark sense of humor and I'm sarcastic. Combine this with my thinking I'm pretty fucking funny and.. well.. I'm sorry in advance.

On to the fun parts!

I'm Dominant. I don't mean "I like to spank you sometimes in the bedroom teehee". It's an always thing for me. I'm dominant because that's what I am, it's not an act or guise. I feel that makes me more flexible in interactions - I'm still dominant while I'm being a goofball, so there's no need for constant seriousness - My making a mistake doesn't shake the foundations of my ego - I can let my guard down because there's no assailing my self-confidence.

What kind of Dominant? Honestly, that varies with the partner. I believe I am closer to a soft Dom than anything else. With a catch - I'm a sadist. So, my guidance is naturally calm and firm - backed by the fact that we both know I would really, really like to stripe you until you scream. By the way, the sadism is a fetish, not a kink - so it's not negotiable - apply only if you like a bit of pain.

I'm a fan of the psychology of submission, so I love training and teaching. A decade ago, I spent a few years training slaves and some of the old, rigid culture is still there.

I'm not a huge fan of degradation, but I can do it and do it with vigor. I even enjoy it a bit when I do. I just don't natively think of you as "a dumb, filthy cocksleeve that needs breeding". I think of you as "a good girl who likes to be useful for her Owner".

I am possessive by nature, controlling by dynamic. I will naturally view you as my possession and my treasure. I take care of what's mine and I hoard it. Think like a big, nerdy dragon. I am not controlling, except when it's invited, however. I come from a place of trust, so I don't feel a need to tell you what to do with your time or who you should be around. I expect you to act with dignity and class and to want to be mine.

Holy hells. I've said more than any other personal I've seen on here. Great. Nobody's reading all this. Although, if you did, you owe it to yourself to message me. Go ahead. Treat yourself. You deserve it.