60 [M4F] #UK I've posted before but not for a while. Looking for someone to spend time with. I'm happy with shy, or introverted, "I'm not sure", anxious and lurkers. I'm trying to find my person younger or older. If you are not sure, shy, anxious, have anxiety about messaging...no problem for me, just send that first message.

I'm an older M living just outside of London, UK. Separated. Live alone, can host. Retired, no money cares. Out of a long term relationship. I was hoping this was the one but sadly we couldn't make it work. I tried, I'm not happy about it but sometimes you've just got to move on. My LTR liked me to take control, preferred answering questions to asking..a lot..

I was her shoulder and the stability in her life. That is what she wanted. I was happy with that kind of relationship, I appeared to do a lot of the work, but actually she effused wonderful waves of love and fun, and endearing eagerness. About me, I read but don't read enough quality books - I love spending time with friends, I have some real weirdo friends and some very erudite sophisticated ones too. I travel. A lot. I have been in Australasia, India, Italy and the Middle East/Africa this year so far.

I run, I cycle but not just for physical health for mental well being too. I love my food so I'm not slim, but I'm not fat either.

You can see the qualities I am comfortable with. Don't be weird, but you can be a little crazy. Looking for someone to travel a lot with.

If you think we might get along please send me a message, no age rejected. Not a big fan of dyed red/blue /pink (insert colour) hair or tats/piercings, but that's not a deal breaker. I'm not in a rush, we have plenty of time to chat, get to know each other.

If you are anxious, awkward...... if you are the "I'm not sure, why would he want me" type, introverted and need coaxing then DM me you are just perfect I can take it from there. If you are a lurker who never posts, has never posted, DM me, that's what you are lurking for. If you have never contacted anyone online...or offline and that's why you are online, and you are terrified, worried it could all go wrong - it won't, worried someone whom you don't want to may find out - they won't, DM me. If you are super shy, super anxious, worried you can't hold a conversation.... just DM me .

It's not the first time I've posted, so if you've seen this before and messaged its likely (probably a certainty) that you didn't take any notice of the bit about chatting. I'm not interested in hookups. If you message me and I message you back....it has to be a two way conversation for it to work, they are not my rules, and you won't need to say much back if you are nervous at the start. But it's not a short term relationship I'm looking for and its not all about sex.