Physical Traits

I’m 38, white, epitome of ‘dad bod’ but well built arms, barrel chest and broad shoulders. 6ft tall and, for those interested, measure 7½” in the downstairs department. I’m bearded with a shaved head.

Vanilla Me

I am a huge nerd so everything from graphic novels, science fiction, fantasy, video games and all pop culture in between.

I guess I have my shit figured out. I work a high end blue collar job, own a home and I suppose I can be considered somewhat successful in life.

I have a wickedly dark, deadpan and sarcastic sense of humour.

I’ve had depression for what feels like an eternity. The only downside to it nowadays is a general apathy towards life - I don’t get stressed or anxious but, at the same time, I generally don’t get happy or excited too which may go some way to explain the kinks I enjoy.

I also have interests in true crime, aliens, ghosts and all other stuff that probably don’t exist.

Kinky Me

I’ve been dabbling in and out of BDSM since I was 19 years old. 2025 marks my 20th year.

Beginning primarily as a Daddy Dominant and Caregiver before my tastes evolved into a much more sadist mindset.

However, I still retain some traits of my experience as a DD - outside of kink I will still revert to my natural caregiving habits of nurturing, protecting and making sure my submissive partner is safe and well. I can get a little possessive at times.

However, once it comes to playtimes, that switch flips. I derive pleasure from humiliating and belittling my sub and, if they also get pleasure from doing so, inflicting pain.

I’m not going to go into detail about what I enjoy as the likelihood is that a lot will naturally form your limits and I like to view dynamics as a two way street. I want you to be able to indulge in your favourite kinks as well as enjoying mine. It’s much more fun if my sub enjoys themselves rather than going through the motions participating in kinks in which they don’t enjoy.

Speaking of limits - I’m respectful of your limits and boundaries. Consent is a necessity, NO MEANS NO. I do employ a philosophy of RACK or risk aware consensual kink.

Aftercare is very important to me. As much as I enjoy breaking down a sub, it’s also important that I build her back up again through the use of tending to any bruises or wounds, snacks and drinks and ultimately building you back into the right sane headspace.

My last real dynamic came to an end around three years ago. We met on Reddit just before covid hit and our dynamic lasted two years over the pandemic - so I’m in it for the long haul.

Looking For

For me, it’s really important that I find someone who I can connect with emotionally and shares likewise vanilla interests. As much fun as it is to imagine a 24/7 dynamic work, studies, social commitments and life in general get in the way. I need to be able to find my partner in crime who can talk to me about anything and everything, a best friend as well as a submissive and someone who shares dumb memes with me.

Ideally, you’ll be clingy and someone who craves attention. I get a bit lonely at times and it’s always nice to feel like you’re wanted.

Kinks wise, I would like to find a masochist and someone who enjoys the humiliation and degradation side of kink. Maybe someone who wants to push their limits and boundaries or willing to explore new ideas and kinks.

I enjoy women of all ages and sizes, if there’s a preference though, it would be for small, petite women - only because it’s much easier to ragdoll them across a room.

Final Thoughts

Writing this out has taken quite a lot of effort and, whilst I don’t expect this level in a response, I would at least like a small paragraph about yourself, where you’re based and what you’re looking for in a potential dominant partner.

If you’re interested in chatting some more, send me a chat.